It’s hard to come out of a place of resentment, and it takes practice (just like everything). Practice forgiving about small, everyday things. You can always non-forgive later. Who and what are you ready to let go of resentment toward?
This one is kind of hard for me. I think it’s almost impossible for me to hate someone. I’m not just saying that either. I’m very quick to forgive and I don’t hold grudges, even when people really screw me over.
Honestly, I can’t think of one person that I haven’t forgiven. Yes, including boyfriends who’ve broken my heart, people who have misjudged me, and friends who’ve used me. I’m not saying I’ve forgotten what they’ve done but I’ve forgiven them for it. I’ll admit this attitude has gotten me in trouble a few times. But I’d rather not waste my time being angry. It doesn’t solve anything. I’d rather learn from it and move on.
I’m not saying that I’ve never fought with someone or had to cut someone out of my life. I used to spend a lot of time hating and resenting people. But now, I am incredibly passive. I try to hold grudges, but it doesn’t work. I end up blaming myself for over-reacting and after a few
days hours, I’m the one who is apologizing. Like when I got pantsed on the pool deck my sophomore year of high school. Sure that boy kind of humiliated me but maybe I should have been wearing underwear.
Plus, as cheesy as this sounds I find life to be incredibly precious, also very fleeting. You never know when a moment could be someone’s last. So why not forgive and enjoy every moment you have?